What is RECOVERY?

Recovery means feeling better.

Recovery is being able to enjoy fond memories without having them precipitate painful feelings of regret or remorse.

Recovery is acknowledging that it is perfectly alright to feel sad from time to time and to talk about those feelings regardless of how those around you react.

We need to EXPRESS our grief.

Psychological discharge, ventilation, catharsis -the emulating out of feelings, weeping, remembering, regretting, appreciating describes the core emotional process.

“CONTAINING” grief carries a fearful danger of physical and emotional sickness.

What is GRIEF?

Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss of any kind.  Therefore, the feelings you are having are also normal and natural for you.  The problem is that many of us have been socialized to believe that these feelings are abnormal and unnatural.

Grief is the CONFLICTING FEELINGS CAUSED BY THE END OR A CHANGE IN A FAMILIAR PATTERN OF BEHAVIOUR.

You may be glad that your loved one is out of pain — but this also means that you won't see your loved one again.  How about divorce? You may feel a genuine sense of freedom now that the battles are finished.  That is a positive feeling.  But at the same time, you may be afraid. These conflicting feelings, freedom and fear, are also a natural response to loss.

 

The Four Tasks of Mourning:

1. To accept the reality of the loss

2. To experience the pain of grief

3.  To adjust to an environment in which the deceased is missing

4.  To withdraw emotional energy and reinvest it in another relationship

The Myths in Recovery:

• Time heals all wounds
  

• Replace the loss
  

• Grieve alone
  

• Be Strong for others
  

The Facts in Recovery:

• Grief and emotional loss issues accumulate
  

• It is not the presenting issue which necessarily brings forth the pain
  

• The accumulation of unresolved loss experiences create a feeling of hopelessness and inability to let go, move on, and/or enjoy life
  

• The physical body reflects unresolved grief with headaches, backaches, anxiety, depression, heart disease, arthritis; just to name a few.
  

Experiencing distress in your marriage, divorce, death, betrayal, loss of relationship, loss of innocence or trust, childhood issues, financial issues, addictions, retirement, abortion, physical or emotional abuse, miscarriage, loss and deterioration of health, or empty nest syndrome.  It's Time for Healing. Recovery is Possible.

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Master Practitioner in Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy,

Registered Professional Counsellor

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